Saturday, October 20, 2007

Today, we had 2 events that we had attended...one was Ma'Tuo Ida's 75th Surprise Bday...the other was silahturahmi to Uni Sari's house (we're still in the Eid mode). Planningnya, we would leave to Uni Sari's house around 1ish...but both Jeffry & I were males2an...huakakaka. Then we figured...yah udah tanggung...y should we go to Uni Sari's house..and buru2 to the birthday party...soalnya that starts @ 5pm. The event @ uni sari's house was an all day event anyways...

Jadi....pergilah kita to the birthday party 1st, then Uni Sari's house. So everyone was starting to arrive as we are too....then, came the birthday surprise. With this birthday surprise...there were 2 other surprises. One was Uni Rin's 50th birthday....and Uni Restu & Da E's 25th wedding anniversary (all my cousins). What a coinsident is that?? 75th birthday, 50th birthday, & 25th anniversary...

To think 25 years of marriage....hmmm...I've been married for almost 4 years now...and it already seems like a looooooonggg time...especially beeing blessed with 2 beautiful daughters. ...ternyata, marriage ituh isn't what it seems to be...beda when you're still pacaran. It takes a lot of hard work, balance, effort, patience and of course love...at least it seems so to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying pacaran isn't the same way too...but when it comes to marriage it's also that way & a bit more. When you're pacaran...there's a saying..."what's yours is yours...& what's mine is mine" when you're married..that's not the case apparently...it's "what's yours is mine...and what's mine is mine" or should i say..."your utang is my utang too"...bener gak????

Kalo when you're in pacaran mode..it seems like everything's all dandy..and when you're sebel or bt with the person you can say or be away from each other and so on...worse case, yah..cari yg lain...yah gak?? Marriage??? Gak bisa begitu boooooooowww....i mean, yeah....worse scenario is get a divorce. But it's not that easy....I guess you all get what i mean..right??

Yah..insya Allah, I'll get to see my 25th wedding anniversary...I have yet lots & lots to learn....lots of people had once told me...once you overcome the 1st five years of marriage, it'll be downhill from there...I sure do hope so!!

Lebaran atmosphere...the kids world & my world

The atmosphere this year for eid is no different than any other years. The difference is...this year, we prayed at the Holiday Inn. Usually, it would be at the Consulate General's house. I guess, in a way it's a good thing...cuz if it were @ the house...it would be all cramped...babies crying...and you can't here the Imam say the prayers...and people chit chat after the prayer...and you can't here the Imam preach. This time, they had designated an extra room for mother's with children, so the people that are praying won't be bothered.

Of course every year, we would go from house to house...paying our respect..especially to the elders...but this this year, we had only gone to the Consulate General's house, then Mami & Papi's house, last but not least Tante Yuli & Oom Andrea's house. Years ago...it would take us 2 days to go around & around...I guess this year, people aren't doing open house's =P So...that's what we did for eid.

As for the kids world, Parisha has started crawling (i mean...literally..with hands & knees, not scooting) and also...she is able to sit up on her own...and standing up while holding on. The standing up part, she's still learning how to balance...it seems like she is learning how to stand a lot faster than Anjeli @ that age....and she had her 'real' solid food as of today. I had made her rice porridge with spinach, and chicken...she seems to take it very well...compared to her Gerber food..heheheh. Anjeli, my gosh...she's just climbing everywhere like a monkey...i'm just afraid that she's going to fall. Like this morning, she's already sitting on the kitchen counter!! Trus one day I found her falling asleep like this:

Her vocabulary is also expanding...and I had also given her a timeout...huhuhu...it was hard for me to do it..but I had to...for discipline. If Anjeli understand to talk back & say "no"...then she'd understand what it means to be disciplined..The question is: when is it ok to spank ur kids???? I had vowed not to spank my kids..only because, what i had gone thru when i was a little bit older than Anjeli. But that's another story.....it can b a novel...

As for me, I had left the Personal Shopping department after 5 years...it was 1 of many hard decision i had to make. So, now I'm working on the floor as a Ralph Lauren Specialist. It's only been 3 weeks...and i'm enjoying it so far...I love the people that I work with...and the atmoshpere is good too! We'll c how it goes =)

Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1428 H

Assalamu'alaikum Wr. wb.

To All Our Friends & Family...

Terselip khilaf dalam maybe in our jokes, laughter, talks or even our actions. We hope the mistakes we had made will be forgiven…we ask of you, from deep in our hearts…mohon maaf lahir & bathin, Minal Aidin Wal Faidzin. May Allah in this victorious day flood your life with happiness, ur heart with love, ur mind with wisdom…Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1428 H

Wassalamu'alaikum Wr. Wb.

Reka, Jeffry, Anjeli, & Parisha Elviano.~

Loneliness...

Yesterday, all I did was hang out with Yani all day...kept her company to get her pedicure...then we just walked around Union Square. I must admit, i was not as talkative as I usually am...my mind was just absorbing everything...meaning..I can't believe this is acutally the last day (Oct.1). Later that evening it continued to her apartment. Her apartment was already empty...the only thing that's left were her 2 luggage and 2 boxes that she was going to take with her to Jakarta. Before we had left for the airport...she took one last look of her apartment...and we both shed tears....

I know it's less than 24 hours since Yani had left... but by this time I usually get a call from her asking "Hey bunster ... what r u doin?? Past tidur neh!! dasar kebo tidur mulu!!!" Then we would talk ngalor ngidul...or she'd call and say "Bun2...I'm comin over!!" or "Bunster...may I culik my little brat today?" Those are the words I will definately miss most!

Last night was really hard for me to see her go...especially how she kissed Anjeli. But the funny thing is...Anjeli was sound asleep when Yani had to go....but right after, when we got to the car...Anjeli had waken up. I know that if she was awake and see yani go...she would be crying so bad...and not want to ditaroin if Yani was carrying her. So, I guess it's a good thing...cuz if that had happened...it'll be a lot harder for all of us...

Gosh...I feel like I'm going thru a break-up...cuz all i'm doing is, cry...especially looking @ this poster size collage that Yani had made for Anjeli.


huuuuuuuu...*sigh*

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